If You Are Dealing with someone who has these traits, read this!
1. DO NOT REACT…PLAN TO ACT
Narcissists depend on your emotional reactions. It can be easy to react in a way that showcases your shock, anger, or hurt, but this will only energize the narcissist. Instead, try to focus on the situation at hand and try not to leave space for projection. By continuously steering the conversation back to the issue at hand, you take away the opportunity for the narcissist to dominate the conversation.
2. TRY TO AVOID DIRECT CONFRONTATION
As stated before, narcissists are sensitive to any kind of criticism. Calling out a narcissist doesn’t help 🥹. This can even be a trigger for their anger.
If you do need to give negative feedback, try to frame it, maybe like Nathan did to David about Bathsheba. It’s kind of the same way you would compliment.
3. REITERATE YOUR NEED FOR ACTION OVER PROMISES
Narcissists can be great at making fictional plans for the future and never following through on their promises. If you want to hold a narcissist accountable, you need to challenge the deception. It is important not to fulfill any of their requests unless they reciprocate the energy….this is huge.
4. MAINTAIN BOUNDARIES
Narcissists easily cross boundaries. While they can break others’ boundaries, they prioritize their own. It is important to set and strongly maintain your boundaries with them. You may want to easily outline what you will and will not accept in your relationship with this individual. While it may be difficult at times, you should always stand up for yourself.
5. REMIND YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME
If anything does not go their way, a narcissist may point the finger at you. In addition to your boundaries, you may want to limit the responsibility that you hold in their life. When the blame is put on you, do not accept it.
6. DON’T ACCEPT THEIR BEHAVIOR
Narcissists are typically aware when they hurt others’ feelings. Their behavior is normal to them, but that is not the same case for other people. You may feel the need to point out their undesired behaviors gently. Narcissists do not like to be viewed in a negative light, so this allows them to adjust their behavior.
7. ACKNOWLEDGE IF YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP
Narcissistic abuse may not be overt. Therefore, it can be difficult to know whether or not you are a victim. You may easily fall into a cycle of narcissistic abuse. This can lead to feeling trapped. Symptoms of narcissistic abuse vary; however, if you are questioning your self-worth, it may be helpful to seek counseling from a licensed professional who specializes in identifying and assisting people who endure narcissistic abuse.
8. KNOW WHEN YOU NEED TO LEAVE A RELATIONSHIP
Narcissists know how to manipulate situations and deceive people. They may use methods like gaslighting and projection to try to alter your reality and gain control. If you begin to feel confused or lost, it may be time to exit the relationship. It is important to never lose sight of yourself. Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome is real. If you think you are experiencing it, you may benefit from talking to a Spirit-filled counselor.
Narcissists always vilify you for seeking outside counsel. It’s only to isolate and alter your reality. Don’t give in to it. Accountability isn’t wrong. It’s for your safety!
